There’s a lot of research and knowledge that confirm this fact: fathers have a tremendous impact on their children’s well-being.
According to Psychology Today: Even from birth, children who have an involved father are more likely to be emotionally secure, be confident to explore their surroundings, and, as they grow older, have better social connections.
Children with caring and loving fathers also have better educational experiences that extend into adolescence and young adulthood. Numerous studies have found that an active and nurturing style of fathering is associated with better verbal skills, intellectual functioning, and academic achievement among adolescents.
As we celebrate Father’s Day this June, it’s important to examine your child’s primary relationship with his/her father because that can affect all of your child’s relationships from birth to death, including those with friends, lovers, and spouses.
Consider this information from The Huffington Post: Girls will look for men who hold the patterns of their dad. Therefore, if their father was kind, loving, and gentle, they will reach for those characteristics in men. Girls will look for, in others, what they have experienced and become familiar with in childhood. Because they’ve gotten used to those familial and historic behavioral patterns, they think that they can handle them in relationships.
Boys, on the other hand, will model themselves after their fathers, according to The Huffington Post. They will look for their father’s approval in everything they do, and copy those behaviors that they recognize as both successful and familiar. Thus, if dad was abusive, controlling, and dominating, those will be the patterns that their sons will imitate and emulate. However, if father is loving, kind, supportive, and protective, boys will want to be that.
So yes, fathers play a vital role in raising their children. And those roles are fast-changing with the emergence of women into the job market, which has forever changed how society views the traditional roles of fathers and mothers.
A study by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development indicates that dads are more engaged in caretaking than ever before. The reasons vary: mothers working more hours and receiving higher salaries, fathers working less, more psychological consciousness, coping skills, mental illness intervention, self-worth issues, intimacy in marriage, social connection, and better role modeling for children.
As we celebrate fathers this month, let’s recognize and reward dads for being there, and actively teaching important life skills to children.
Photo credit: Fatherhood Commission